just a thought

I want to dip into a touchy subject for a minute. If you're at all offended by sexuality, you should go ahead and stop reading now. If you find yourself giggling every time the word sex or any sexual body part is mentioned, this one's for you. I don't know if it was my fairly lax upbringing where sex was neither mentioned nor prohibited, but I grew up somewhat open and free to talk about sex and all it entails. My mom found out I was sexually active by....wait for it....ASKING me. I calmly replied with a "yes" and a "don't worry we use protection". Nobody in my immediate family ever sat down and talked about sex or our sexual experiences. It was always one of those things where the less my parents knew the better they were off. Because, really, no matter how much your parents want you to be open with them, there is no need to discuss details of sexual experiences and why you’d do them again or run for the hills.

So this posed a question in my head. Am I a pretty sexually open person because I was never badgered about it or would I turn out the same way (or worse) had I been punished for being open about it? I don’t blush when someone asks me a personal question about my sexuality and I don’t shun people when they tell me about theirs. As humans, we are here to eat, poop and procreate…so what’s the problem?  We are no different than animals. We just have more brains to use and we are thoroughly confused on HOW we need to use them.  How can a species with such giant thinking machines installed think that attraction works on one parallel? Man attracted to woman and vice versa. Ok, so maybe we KNOW that attraction doesn’t work quite as linear as that, but it certainly isn’t an accepted thought that we may stray from that concept and find attraction in the same sex. Furthermore, how does it make sense that a woman is now able to more freely say that she is bisexual and it is accepted and if a man proclaims the same, he is just plain ol’ gay.  Why would anybody want to limit their chances at love and true connection by specifying that they only accept one sex as a possibility? I never thought about labels and calling myself bisexual or gay…I’ve always just had an open mind. I would never run from a feeling about someone if they happened to not fit the socially accepted sexual mold for me. What if the person across the room that caught my eye happens to be a woman? Why would I risk not meeting someone that can potentially give me everything I want and make me happy, just because they lack a penis? I find men and woman equally as attractive in a million different ways. There are things that women can never replace in a man and the other way around. It actually hurts my brain to think that people are scared to be open and just TRY something that’s outside their comfort box.

You have to understand that this isn’t meant as a gay rights push. People who are “religiously against” gay and lesbian couples will never WANT to understand this argument, let alone actually listen and take something away from it. This is for the people who are afraid to explore their sexuality because society thinks its taboo. Last time I checked, happiness wasn’t taboo…and how will you know who makes you happy if you walk away from them simply based on their equipment.

Do yourself a favor, next time someone smiles at you, smile back…don’t stop and check for proper parts first. But if you do, check for size ;)