Most of us, the lucky ones, have had our hearts broken at some point in time. I say lucky because it means you've allowed yourself to feel love in one form or another. You've taken down walls of defense and given your heart to someone in its entire vulnerable state. Heart break is only a minor side effect of love, if you think about it. Not everyone gets to fall so deeply in love that they allow potential pain. I, for one, would truly rather have loved, lost and been hurt, than never to have experienced that true feeling of love.
I have to clarify what I mean when I say the "feeling of love". It isn't the feeling of BEING loved, or having someone love you. It's the feeling of LOVE itself. It's when I love someone unconditionally. I do things for them, I think of them, consider them, and cherish them because I feel love. It's a complicated thing for others to comprehend a lot of times. Love, compassion, nurturing, are all things that fuel who I am. The acts of love that I show, in turn fuel more love, care and compassion. It's what makes me who I am. It's what makes me happy.
This being said, I have to mention that in recent times I've seen a lot of people going through heart break from someone that betrayed them or left them broken. To which I have to say, you're very well allowed to feel sad and hurt and defeated, however, blaming and throwing spears at the other person will never get you to a better place.
In today's social media driven society, it's easy to hide behind a screen and throw out what seem to be supremely meaningful blurbs on Facebook and inspirational quotes on Instagram. All done in hopes that the person that has caused you hurt will somehow see it, hear of it and will magically get hit with reality of how much they have wronged you and now need to crawl on hands and knees for forgiveness.
I hate to be the one to disappoint you, but even if they did care enough to see your posts, it is highly unlikely they will suddenly change who they are and somehow see a fresh new light.
Things happen for a reason. As cliche as that may be, it is the truth. And I don't mean that in a way of predestined future. I mean that things happen due to cause and affect. People become unfaithful in a relationship because they stop caring or they simply stop pretending to care enough to not betray. When someone is unfaithful in a relationship, that relationship was never whole to begin with. Successful, healthy and stable relationships without betrayal and unfaithful acts, are built of different resources and are held together by the glue of two people who are truly in love and have the best of all intentions toward the other person. You can't force that. You can't fake that. And you certainly can't learn that. It just exists.
So if you got your heart broken by someone who has somehow left your life, chances are, it wasn't very stable to begin with. Please don't betray yourself by thinking you can somehow guilt, convince, or force the other person to finally see how valuable and irreplaceable you are. Realize the fact that although they may have seemed irreplaceable to you, you never were to them. Because if someone sees you as irreplaceable and valuable, they will never betray you or leave you heart broken.
It's a hard thing to realize, but once you do, you can simply accept the fact that this was something that just wasn't meant to be. Sure it hurts, but if you step back and see it for what it was, the pain dissipates and you are able to take away the real lessons you were meant to learn.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, instead of posting nonsense in hopes of catching their attention, fix yourself. Be good to yourself, like everyone deserves to be. Let the other person be themselves. If in the end their biggest mistake was, in fact, hurting you and leaving your life, then that is the lesson they were meant to learn.
You are nobody's teacher but your own.
There isn't a single person that will "see the light" if you shove their face into a light bulb. The proverbial light has always been on, let them open the door to the room if they choose to, otherwise just let it burn and move on.
...as always....I'm just sayin....
